Domestic violence has a long, ugly and subsisting history in Nigeria, or anywhere for that matter.
Many have been scarred, some died, and others permanently left numb to the happiness that marriages/relationships are meant to be about.
Recently, I came across a narration by a daughter on Twitter, of how her mother suffered continuous physical and emotional abuse from her father that she [the mother] lived in perpetual fear and knew no happiness until they became divorced. [Ironically he initiated that divorce process.]
In the past, women hardly came out to talk about these things, bottling in all that pain and suffering in silence – and men could not bear the shame of even breathing a word of it to anyone.
These days, thankfully, people are becoming more ‘vocal’ about abuse, and this is in no small part due to the availability of social media platforms.
Singer Muma Gee released pictures alleging that her enstranged husband had abused her, Tonto Dikeh also came out on Instagram to talk about being abused.
Even Fuston Utomi, who owns the Foston Musik which Patoranking is signed to, has been called out on Instagram by Ajoke, his ex-wife, for his alleged acts of savagery on her during the time they were married.
Although Oladunni Churchill has come out with counterclaims of their own against Tonto, it is still obvious that a pattern is emerging here - social media has provided an extra avenue for people to come out of the closet about abusive marriages.
In the past, people only had the options of forever keeping quiet, reporting to the police, members of the abuser’s family or theirs.
These days though, abused persons are running to the haven provided by social media to share their stories and narrate their ordeals.
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